Easing Back-to-School Jitters: Insights from Family Counselor, Connie Wax
As summer winds down and the school year approaches, many parents face the challenge of helping their kids transition smoothly from the relaxed summer mode to the more structured school routine.
To provide valuable insights, we spoke with Connie Wax, a family counselor in Los Alamitos, CA, who offers expert advice on making this shift easier for both parents and children.
In this Q&A, Connie shares practical tips on establishing routines, easing morning chaos, and supporting anxious kids. Whether you’re a seasoned parent or new to the back-to-school rush, Kidsguide and Connie are both here to help make the transition smoother for your family.
Q: How do you get the kids out of summer mode and into school mode?
A: Start re-establishing your routine a couple of weeks before school starts or as soon as possible. If the kids are old enough, have them participate in a family meeting to discuss the morning and afternoon schedule. When the kids are involved in the decision-making, they take better ownership of their responsibilities.
Talk about what time everyone needs to leave the house by, what order of tasks should things be done (brushing teeth, eating breakfast, making the bed, etc.), and don’t forget about the after school routine. Snacks first, then playtime? Or homework first?
Q: Any tips to make that morning routine easier?
A: Set out the outfits and shoes the night before! And getting them to bed on time for enough sleep is critical for brain and emotional function.
Q: How can parents help their kids who may be anxious about starting school?
A: If possible, visit the school grounds before the first day of school and meet with administrators or their teacher.
Kidsguide Tip: Most schools have an Orientation Day before school starts. Spend a little extra time exploring the campus and meeting the staff.
Q: At what point should parents consider seeking additional help?
A: Start by seeking support at the school. Talk to your child’s teacher, school counselor, and if necessary the vice principal or principal.
Q: What’s one key piece of advice you have for parents?
A: Listen, listen, listen. Listen to your child and let the conversation grow from there. If your child shows signs of anxiety, the most important thing a parent can do is support and mirror their feelings. Usually once the child understands that, “ok, mom gets it or dad gets it,” it will calm them down and your child will naturally start problem solving.
Kidsguide Tip: If your kids have a harder time expressing their thoughts verbally, try these conversation starters.
Photo: Connie Wax
Connie Wax MSW, LCSW is a counselor for individuals, couples, families, and children. She specializes in assisting gifted and talented individuals in understanding and accepting themselves, finding their paths, and developing the trust and discipline to be their best and accomplish their goals. Learn more about Connie Wax at counselorforthegiftedandtalented.com or call (714) 300-3163.
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